Valentine’s Day is coming around the corner, so now we must grab an extra $60 from our wallets for perfect a night out, along with the ultimate gift, for our loved one.

Maybe instead of digging deep inside of yourself to figure out whether chocolates or a stuffed animal could create a smile big enough to hurt your girlfriend’s cheeks, you should first consider if they’re really worth the extra moolah this holiday.

Ready to determine if your relationship seems legit? Don’t pull out a sheet of paper and list the pros and cons, but rather, read the following statements to help.

1. You talk about anything together. Even when you have a pimple on your chin the size of Jupiter that needs popping, you may share with your significant other without fear of judgment. They understand when you talk about your ultra-attractive celebrity crush, and they don’t automatically get aggressively jealous. No pressure exists to transform into the perfect person; you remain yourself.
2. You discuss what’s on your mind, and you agree to disagree. Maybe the election came up, and you find yourself in the mainstream of modern political debates. You can be a Democrat or a Republican, against abortion or pro-choice or pledging your freedom for the marriage rights of homosexuals, and no matter what your partner believes, they respect your opinion. Even if you go through a debate, the argument doesn’t alter your relationship.
3. They don’t ever push the boundaries established. Point blank: there are no demanding factors thrown in your face. Breaking up your friendships to keep your boyfriend? Save yourself. If this relationship doesn’t last (which 99 percent won’t), you’ll need those friends for support afterwards.
4. They’re honest, loyal and set on commitment. If you’re just the sixth one on a long list of potential cute partners, you’ll feel lonely. In the end, we all aim for an appealing, strong significant other who loves us and only us, and if you lack a monogamous relationship now, I promise it won’t help you better yourself later.
5. They always know how to make you laugh. Unfortunately, we all find ourselves thrown under the bus and we start to feel down in the dumps. Fortunately, you have a boyfriend who can make weird noises with their joints and speaks as much gossip as you. If you find yourself missing a smile while together, they’re not worth that time.
6. When times get tough, they’re your go-to best friend. Your parents announced their upcoming divorce, your grandmother is dying and you’re failing Trigonometry. While you could just sulk in your dark, chilly room, away from the rest of the world, you have a boyfriend that knows the struggle and promises to hold your hand through thick and thin. Maybe your relationship isn’t exactly like the motion pictures, but he still picks up a bouquet of roses from Schnucks, your favorite candy bar from the gas station near your house and prepares himself for hours of cuddling and doesn’t complain for a second. Things are racing through your mind, but no matter what comes spewing out, you cry comfortably, rather than feeling embarrassed, because when you’re with him, you get that warm, fuzzy feeling. Happily, you always know love surrounds you.

Unfortunately, you may be in a relationship where one of these guidelines doesn’t apply to your relationship. Of course, it’s all down to you on whether you spend the money and dedicate your time to your significant other on Valentine’s Day, but what about spoiling yourself this holiday too? Don’t feel pathetic if you take yourself out for a movie with a couple of friends and buy yourself a new pair of boots from the mall; the one person you should love until the end is yourself.