Who likes drinking coffee, going out but also staying in sometimes, watching Netflix and going on adventures? Every single person to ever post on a college Facebook page.

I’m not judging. My post on the Mizzou page was quite similar to the above description; however, when trying to find the person you will live with for a year, it is not helpful that most people post the exact same description in different words.

Because all of the bios are more or less the same, it’s nearly impossible to avoid placing judgment from their other social media accounts.

As an introvert, roommate searching is one of the most draining experiences that I have ever forced upon myself. The process consists of almost constant small talk with strangers, one of the things I despise the most. 

It’s always the same questions: Where are you from? What’s your major? What are you involved in? Sometimes there’s a click and the conversation continues. It tends to drop off after the basic questions are asked.

Once you feel like you’ve connected with this stranger that you’ve talked to for a few hours or days, it comes time ask the big question. Do you want to be roommates? Symptoms of asking this question may include pacing, high anxiety and some light nervous sweating.

Two responses may follow. Option one: “Sorry I already have a roommate!” This response may be given to let one down easy or because it’s true. Either way, it’s soul crushing. 

At this point in your short relationship, you’ve imagined your future college life. You’ve pictured your shared dorm room and the possible friendship you and this stranger may form. Your vision can shatter in an instant and if you’re attached to the idea of the person, it hurts.

Option two: “That sounds great/I would like that/Yes I’d love to!” It’s the best feeling. The weight of finding who you will live with next year is finally lifted. You feel free.

Until the doubt sets in. 

You’ve never met this person. What if they hate you or they’re a slob or they steal your stuff  or they’re a psycho? Obviously you’ll keep texting and getting to know them, but how well can you really get to know someone over Snapchat?

Most people only have to go through this once. You find someone. You both agree. You’re done. Unless, your first future roommate texts you a week later saying her friend from school decided to go to the same university so she’s dropping you to room with her.

In this case, you get to restart the entire process.